Allow yourself to process the grief, humiliation, rage etc. if you are not in regular therapy, find a friend you can honestly vent out to and who can listen to

Allow yourself to process the grief, humiliation, rage etc. if you are not in regular therapy, find a friend you can honestly vent out to and who can listen to you with an attitude of “these are thoughts and emotions that need to get out so they don’t fester. They in no way define this person” If you skip this step, you risk losing energy and cognitive resources to these unresolved emotions.