This is classic 'whataboutism'. The issue is not whether displeasure occurs for either party, but the normalization or expectation of that displeasure. It is

This is classic 'whataboutism'. The issue is not whether displeasure occurs for either party, but the normalization or expectation of that displeasure. It is very much an issue of magnitudes and whether a discrepancy there exists. Your experiences are not wrong or less legitimate, they simply don't address the thesis of the article.