I think that one of the primary disconnects is that the amount of domestic work that a typical man finds necessary and the amount a typical woman finds necessar

I think that one of the primary disconnects is that the amount of domestic work that a typical man finds necessary and the amount a typical woman finds necessary are wildly different. Men, by and large, have spent their single lives existing with entire classes of housework, that their female partners consider essential, not being done or even considered. And those tasks that men have done for themselves are typically done at a much lower frequency or degree of thoroughness than might be expected by another party.