> Even in the marriages with the most "woke" husbands I see among my friends, the wife almost always ends up both doing more and spending more mental energy on

> Even in the marriages with the most "woke" husbands I see among my friends, the wife almost always ends up both doing more and spending more mental energy on the home. A lot of people here seem to assume that living together and being married it's the same thing. You can have one without the other. Please don't make this assumption.