People perceive an incompatibility between Islam and the West, not because of points of doctrine, but because Islamic countries still condone barbaric practices

People perceive an incompatibility between Islam and the West, not because of points of doctrine, but because Islamic countries still condone barbaric practices such as death by stoning for the crime of adultery. Wikipedia says it is not common, but the optics are very bad. Even in Western countries a woman I know who had an Islamic father had to go into hiding after her male relatives beat her severely for dating a non-Muslim boy. In other words, it is the practices of the Muslim community, not their doctrine, that makes it look alien to the West.