When playing games, my children somehow never cared when they lost (we never made a big deal of it). They were enjoying the game itself (and sometimes ended up

When playing games, my children somehow never cared when they lost (we never made a big deal of it). They were enjoying the game itself (and sometimes ended up upset one on the other, but not because they lost but because the other one laughed, cheated, breathed the wrong way or whatever). Two boys, 2 years apart, from 5,7 to now (11,13). They were astonished when they played with their cousins (whom they like a lot) and the cousins started to cry when they lost. Mine told them that they (the cousins) can "take the victory" if they want cause this is just a game.