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I disagree. I work a full week at one job + 2 nights per week. Feel that I do a lot of unpaid stuff (ie taking care of the household, cooking, ...) but still e

I disagree. I work a full week at one job + 2 nights per week. Feel that I do a lot of unpaid stuff (ie taking care of the household, cooking, ...) but still endlessly hear about how other people "don't have the time". The useful non paid things that people actually do are greatly overestimated imo, because more often than not it will end up in the "don't have time for it" even though they could manage to find time for it if they really wanted to. Just a matter of priorities. I'm far from perfect, and I don't do sports (which I also consider an useful non paid thing) for an example. Yet I wish I did, and I totally could if I had some discipline there. But it's not having more time, or less work, that would change it. It's hard and everyone is lazy and tired, and there are so many easy ways out of the present moment, but the majority really doesn't push themselves much.

psyc 9y ago
I agree with you. Growing up, I never heard the end of it. How housework was a full-time job. My mother chanted "men's work is from sun to sun, women's work is never done" like a nursery rhyme, or a prayer. When I moved out, I discovered that working 40 hrs was pretty hard, but housework was a joke. Right now I probably spend around 10-12 hrs per week, max, on housework. And the overwhelming majority of that is just preparing food, which I could spend less time on if I didn't cook. And housework is easy, repetitive, and requires no thought. I mean, I can do laundry unconsciously while writing code in my head. So since I moved out 22 years ago, my hypothesis has been that people who think housework is a full-time job are actually probably suffering from severe depression and/or anxiety.
- tc7 9y ago
  Curious, do you have kids/family in the house? There may be a difference in the mental/physical load of "managing a household" vs "doing housework".
  - hycaria 9y ago
    They can participate, way more than what we usually see (my own upbringing was too lax on this in my opinion). I wonder why parents don't make their kids part of the household.

psyc 9y ago

I agree with you. Growing up, I never heard the end of it. How housework was a full-time job. My mother chanted "men's work is from sun to sun, women's work is never done" like a nursery rhyme, or a prayer. When I moved out, I discovered that working 40 hrs was pretty hard, but housework was a joke. Right now I probably spend around 10-12 hrs per week, max, on housework. And the overwhelming majority of that is just preparing food, which I could spend less time on if I didn't cook. And housework is easy, repetitive, and requires no thought. I mean, I can do laundry unconsciously while writing code in my head. So since I moved out 22 years ago, my hypothesis has been that people who think housework is a full-time job are actually probably suffering from severe depression and/or anxiety.

tc7 9y ago
Curious, do you have kids/family in the house? There may be a difference in the mental/physical load of "managing a household" vs "doing housework".
- hycaria 9y ago
  They can participate, way more than what we usually see (my own upbringing was too lax on this in my opinion). I wonder why parents don't make their kids part of the household.