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That's a pretty big assumption, probably not based on anything other than your gut feeling?

bryanrasmussen 9y ago
Well thinking it is not based on research, otherwise I would say after researching the matter... so based on my gut feeling, I guess, maybe based on feelings on how many side projects I used to get done in a year versus how many I get done now. I don't know that I would call it an assumption, since an assumption I think of as something I will proceed from, as the basis of decisions and I'm not making any particular decisions based on what I think on this issue.
jimktrains2 9y ago
Children consume a great deal of time and energy. Even after they're bathed and put to bed, cleaning and preparing for the next day eat into "adult" time in the night. Even splitting a perfect 50/50 with your partner (if you have one) doesn't leave much time for personal projects. Having a house also means spending time on its care. Not nearly as much as children, but it's a non negligible amount. Marriage can be less of a barrier to personal projects. Just depending your relationship and schedule.
milesvp 9y ago
LOL! I'd say it's a fairly minor assumption to say he probably doesn't have small children. The sheer amount of time and effort that children can consume is mindblowing. A six month old gets bored in ways I didn't think possible for something with so little experience in the world. And god forbid you walk away to do some chore, the cry of abandonment makes it impossible to focus on anything else. And then you think, oh by 6 they should be able to help with things, but the mental effort to get any sort of chore out the child dwarfs the effort to do the chore yourself. And when all the children are finally asleep, that's when the PTSD shows itself. Will a child decide bedtime wasn't executed to their liking and come knocking on your door in 30 minutes? And when will the youngest cry for their first night time feeding? Can I start this activity that will likely take an hour? Do I dare stay up? or will tonight be a 4 cries in 4 hours kind of night?
- WA 9y ago
  > And when all the children are finally asleep, that's when the PTSD shows itself. So true. Or if they get sick and you wonder when it'll hit you too – in an hour, tomorrow or in a week. Having 2 kids is, at times, the most stressful and anxiety-inducing thing I ever did in my entire life.

Well thinking it is not based on research, otherwise I would say after researching the matter... so based on my gut feeling, I guess, maybe based on feelings on how many side projects I used to get done in a year versus how many I get done now. I don't know that I would call it an assumption, since an assumption I think of as something I will proceed from, as the basis of decisions and I'm not making any particular decisions based on what I think on this issue.

jimktrains2 9y ago

Children consume a great deal of time and energy. Even after they're bathed and put to bed, cleaning and preparing for the next day eat into "adult" time in the night. Even splitting a perfect 50/50 with your partner (if you have one) doesn't leave much time for personal projects. Having a house also means spending time on its care. Not nearly as much as children, but it's a non negligible amount. Marriage can be less of a barrier to personal projects. Just depending your relationship and schedule.

milesvp 9y ago

LOL! I'd say it's a fairly minor assumption to say he probably doesn't have small children. The sheer amount of time and effort that children can consume is mindblowing. A six month old gets bored in ways I didn't think possible for something with so little experience in the world. And god forbid you walk away to do some chore, the cry of abandonment makes it impossible to focus on anything else. And then you think, oh by 6 they should be able to help with things, but the mental effort to get any sort of chore out the child dwarfs the effort to do the chore yourself. And when all the children are finally asleep, that's when the PTSD shows itself. Will a child decide bedtime wasn't executed to their liking and come knocking on your door in 30 minutes? And when will the youngest cry for their first night time feeding? Can I start this activity that will likely take an hour? Do I dare stay up? or will tonight be a 4 cries in 4 hours kind of night?

WA 9y ago
> And when all the children are finally asleep, that's when the PTSD shows itself. So true. Or if they get sick and you wonder when it'll hit you too – in an hour, tomorrow or in a week. Having 2 kids is, at times, the most stressful and anxiety-inducing thing I ever did in my entire life.