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There’s a vast difference between a hookup culture and having consensual, if casual, sex with someone. A relationship without doubt is a good thing but it isn’
by BjoernKW 9y ago
There’s a vast difference between a hookup culture and having consensual, if casual, sex with someone.
A relationship without doubt is a good thing but it isn’t the only thing. Modern society for shallow moral reasons conflates committed relationships with sex.
This causes a lot of problems and probably is one of the main reasons why relationships break up or people feel miserable in relationships.
- icebraining 9y agoThere’s a vast difference between a hookup culture and having consensual, if casual, sex with someone. Is hookup necessarily (or even mostly) non-consensual? I'm probably missing some cultural context, what's the distinction you're making?
- BjoernKW 9y agoIt's about the way it's painted in the media. Hookups are often depicted as negative, morally questionable and at times non-consensual as well (mostly involving drugs). There's been a moral panic about this in recent years. Having consensual, casual sex with someone on the other hand shouldn't ever be considered questionable, given that you're being honest with everyone involved, which might include someone you're in a committed relationship with at the time. So, doing something consensually never is a bad thing. Lying is, to others as well as to yourself.
- TheSpiceIsLife 9y ago> Hookups are often depicted as negative, morally questionable and at times non-consensual as well (mostly involving drugs). Why on Earth would you conflate hookups and rape? Please stop.
- BjoernKW 9y agoTo those downvoting this comment: Renowned relationship therapists like Esther Perel seem to agree with me on this matter.
- qubex 9y agoAh, the vaunted ”appeal to authority”... a logical fallacy that hadn’t yet shown up on this sub-thread.