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I agree.

sillysaurus3 9y ago
He felt something, near the end. Put yourself in his shoes. Speculation is all we can do, if we're serious about trying to prevent this in the future. Giving people an outlet is important. The people who reached out to me often felt cornered, for one reason or another. Isn't it reasonable to suppose Aaron felt the similarly? If people feel like they're allowed to open up about their issues, it can really do some good. But that won't happen by trying to hush people. Readers: If any of you are considering any extreme action, contact me first. I'll listen. And I won't judge you. I know at least one of you has had similar thoughts. So reach out instead.
- Nooseofaaron 9y ago
  That is a straight up fucking lie. This community is so adorable.
- DanBC 9y ago
  > Speculation is all we can do, if we're serious about trying to prevent this in the future. No no, if you want to prevent suicide you should avoid specualting on what went on in a person's mind. Suicide is a complex phenomena, and it's wrong to boil it down to one or two things.
  - sillysaurus3 9y ago
    For what it's worth, I partly agree. It just seems important to try to help whatever is going on. Most people don't try, you know? It can be really hard for people who have stuff going on to find any kind of support. And you'd think it'd be the opposite: family, friends, counsellors. Yet for some reason, people tend to eschew them during dark times. There's something worth exploring there, and I want to help somehow. A decent example: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/7q9eu0/my_daughter_just_got_admitted_to_a_psych_unit_for/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/7q9eu0/my_... In that case, it was trauma that almost led to suicide. But it was intensely private and humiliating. Of course she wasn't going to talk to her father about it. If only there were a service for people in that situation to get real help, on demand. There are suicide hotlines, but many people are far more comfortable expressing themselves via keyboard.
    - chris_wot 9y ago
      You don’t want to talk about suicidal thoughts. If you do that, then you will get locked up and not treated like a person. In Australia, the medical profession who are meant to help people with suicidal thoughts are the very last people you should speak to. I speak from personal experience.
      - sillysaurus3 9y ago
        That's why I want to help. I want to be someone that people can speak to. That goes for you, too. If you ever find yourself in a dark place again, contact me. I'll listen.
  - chris_wot 9y ago
    Agreed. I have been very close to suicide on a few occasions, and I’m sure they were for different reasons than Aaron.

I agree.

He felt something, near the end. Put yourself in his shoes. Speculation is all we can do, if we're serious about trying to prevent this in the future. Giving people an outlet is important. The people who reached out to me often felt cornered, for one reason or another. Isn't it reasonable to suppose Aaron felt the similarly? If people feel like they're allowed to open up about their issues, it can really do some good. But that won't happen by trying to hush people. Readers: If any of you are considering any extreme action, contact me first. I'll listen. And I won't judge you. I know at least one of you has had similar thoughts. So reach out instead.

Nooseofaaron 9y ago
That is a straight up fucking lie. This community is so adorable.
DanBC 9y ago
> Speculation is all we can do, if we're serious about trying to prevent this in the future. No no, if you want to prevent suicide you should avoid specualting on what went on in a person's mind. Suicide is a complex phenomena, and it's wrong to boil it down to one or two things.
- sillysaurus3 9y ago
  For what it's worth, I partly agree. It just seems important to try to help whatever is going on. Most people don't try, you know? It can be really hard for people who have stuff going on to find any kind of support. And you'd think it'd be the opposite: family, friends, counsellors. Yet for some reason, people tend to eschew them during dark times. There's something worth exploring there, and I want to help somehow. A decent example: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/7q9eu0/my_daughter_just_got_admitted_to_a_psych_unit_for/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/7q9eu0/my_... In that case, it was trauma that almost led to suicide. But it was intensely private and humiliating. Of course she wasn't going to talk to her father about it. If only there were a service for people in that situation to get real help, on demand. There are suicide hotlines, but many people are far more comfortable expressing themselves via keyboard.
  - chris_wot 9y ago
    You don’t want to talk about suicidal thoughts. If you do that, then you will get locked up and not treated like a person. In Australia, the medical profession who are meant to help people with suicidal thoughts are the very last people you should speak to. I speak from personal experience.
    - sillysaurus3 9y ago
      That's why I want to help. I want to be someone that people can speak to. That goes for you, too. If you ever find yourself in a dark place again, contact me. I'll listen.
- chris_wot 9y ago
  Agreed. I have been very close to suicide on a few occasions, and I’m sure they were for different reasons than Aaron.