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This article is a bit of a let down. They repeat the same thing over and over again. That there are mothers who regret having children, and how they are critici
by ndh2 9y ago
This article is a bit of a let down. They repeat the same thing over and over again. That there are mothers who regret having children, and how they are criticized by some other people as soon as they voice those regrets.
What the article doesn't address is exactly why they regret having children, and what could be done to alleviate their problems. Or how mothers who regret having children differ from those who don't. Is it a personality trait, or does it have to do with the environment? Probably mostly the latter, but in what way exactly?
The topic is interesting, the article not so much.
- paulcole 9y ago> what could be done to alleviate their problems Nothing. You can't put the bun back in the oven. The best you can do is talk openly about how for some people having a kid is a terrible, irreversible, regrettable decision.
- taeric 9y agoThat seems defeatist. Healthier/stronger support networks would almost certainly benefit everyone.
- dgabriel 9y agoI mean, they definitely talk about how the specific demands of modern motherhood are exhausting. Here's a quote: "Feeling trapped or suffocated is a common theme in Donath’s work; mothers felt “as if the metaphorical umbilical cord binding them to their children were in fact wrapped around their neck.” Many women said they felt pressured to have children. So did German novelist Sarah Fischer, author of Die Mutterglück-Lüge (The Myth of Mothering Joy: Regretting Motherhood—Why I’d Rather Have Become a Father), published in 2016, who writes she knew she’d made a mistake “when the contractions started.”