Oh man, we went through a lot of this. We've moved to different states, not countries, but that selfish aspect of 'what happens when I get old' was definitely a

Oh man, we went through a lot of this. We've moved to different states, not countries, but that selfish aspect of 'what happens when I get old' was definitely a topic. I think one of the realizations that helped us was my wife's experience working in a nursing home. She gets grief all the time for not having children, meaning most of her patients do have children. The thing is, most of their children rarely visit, or don't visit at all. Having children is no guarantee that they'll be there in the end, and once their adult, that relationship is completely different, especially in the world of cheap travel and communication that we live in. There was lots of things that went into our decision, not all of them within our control, but ultimately we decided we should focus on our lifestyle, making good friends, and saving enough to afford and quality retirement lifestyle.