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Why would you think this isn’t a socially acceptable POV? I’ve never heard it before and it doesn’t come across as noxious to me.

DoreenMichele 9y ago
And yet it is being downvoted, which is one of the more polite responses I get. It used to be a lot uglier (even on HN, which is generally a bastion of civility) and I left a lot of lists, or was thrown off of them, where it simply wasn't constructive for me to try to participate.
- bitcrusher 9y ago
  I would suggest that part of the reason is that it comes across as you having an axe to grind, rather than what you’re saying. The conversation was one party agreeing with you about there not being great treatment options until recently when studies have finally been conpleted with you saying, ‘you’re wrong, my experience proves it, anything you say is an attempt to invalidate my experience’ That is quite probably not at all what you intended but that is how I interpreted that exchange.
  - DoreenMichele 9y ago
    The enormous degree to which I am repeatedly invalidated is apparently lost on you. If I were being taken at all seriously then people would be asking me how on earth I am doing this, not being faux respectful on a foundation of "obviously she is full of crap and knows nothing." Doctors never have any interest whatsoever in how I am getting healthier. They merely assure me it has zero relevance to anyone else on the planet.
    - zbentley 9y ago
      > If I were being taken at all seriously then people would be asking me how on earth I am doing this https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/narcissistic-personality-disorder-dsm--5-301.81-(f60.81) https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/narcissistic-personalit...
      - DoreenMichele 9y ago
        That's a very ugly personal attack. And suggesting I am a narcissist doesn't rebut anything I have said, so it sort of admits that you don't actually have a good argument at all.
      - hateduser2 9y ago
        What’s wrong with you

DoreenMichele 9y ago

And yet it is being downvoted, which is one of the more polite responses I get. It used to be a lot uglier (even on HN, which is generally a bastion of civility) and I left a lot of lists, or was thrown off of them, where it simply wasn't constructive for me to try to participate.

bitcrusher 9y ago
I would suggest that part of the reason is that it comes across as you having an axe to grind, rather than what you’re saying. The conversation was one party agreeing with you about there not being great treatment options until recently when studies have finally been conpleted with you saying, ‘you’re wrong, my experience proves it, anything you say is an attempt to invalidate my experience’ That is quite probably not at all what you intended but that is how I interpreted that exchange.
- DoreenMichele 9y ago
  The enormous degree to which I am repeatedly invalidated is apparently lost on you. If I were being taken at all seriously then people would be asking me how on earth I am doing this, not being faux respectful on a foundation of "obviously she is full of crap and knows nothing." Doctors never have any interest whatsoever in how I am getting healthier. They merely assure me it has zero relevance to anyone else on the planet.
  - zbentley 9y ago
    > If I were being taken at all seriously then people would be asking me how on earth I am doing this https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/narcissistic-personality-disorder-dsm--5-301.81-(f60.81) https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/narcissistic-personalit...
    - DoreenMichele 9y ago
      That's a very ugly personal attack. And suggesting I am a narcissist doesn't rebut anything I have said, so it sort of admits that you don't actually have a good argument at all.
    - hateduser2 9y ago
      What’s wrong with you