You should use the long commute as leverage, i.e. you need to either work one more day a week from home or start looking for something closer to SJ. You won't

You should use the long commute as leverage, i.e. you need to either work one more day a week from home or start looking for something closer to SJ. You won't come off as looking disloyal to the company because everyone understands how brutal that commute is.