I completely agree that, even more damaging than what we do to our reputation, it's what other people do that can be catastrophic. The ideal solution (for me)

I completely agree that, even more damaging than what we do to our reputation, it's what other people do that can be catastrophic. The ideal solution (for me) would be a curated response. Unfortunately, that is probably not ideal for who(m?)ever is searching for me. [Serious question: who or whom? The phrase is the object of a preposition, but the placement is the "subject" of that object.]