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Offtopic: are we now so gender neutral we even cannot address our own kid as he or she? Or did you do this on purpose to hide the gender of your kid as part of
by bastijn 9y ago
Offtopic: are we now so gender neutral we even cannot address our own kid as he or she? Or did you do this on purpose to hide the gender of your kid as part of your privacy?
No flame intended. Honest question. Never thought about the gender of my kids being a privacy thing.
Ontopic:
As a parent I (we) try not to restrain things like screen use. Instead we actively promote all other forms of spending time we prefer more. This means I usually enter the room before my kids get up and put the devices away and put other toys in sight. My wife is a montessori (method) teacher which makes her quite skilled at knowing which kind of toys/lessons our kids like at what time in their life. Meaning each couple of weeks the things we prepare change. Result is they usually first pick a bit of everything in plain sight and only after, at the end of day, ask for a device. We didn’t tell them not to, it is just they really like their puzzles, painting, and what have you. In real life preparing means putting things in sight instead of in a closet and one of us being downstairs before the kids is normal as well. Not much effort there.
Disclaimer: my oldest is only 3 right now. Older kids may be entirely different though I believe promoting better options has a better effect than restraining the negative ones.
- losteverything 9y agoHide gender
- bastijn 9y agoThanks for clarfying. What, if you don’t mind me asking, makes you feel their gender in this context is worth censuring? You made me think about it and it is quite interesting. From reading your post I was surprised. Thinking about it makes it interesting. I work in the Healthcare sector and gender definitly is part of privacy information (as is age for that matter). However, I would have not thought about it twice sharing it here. Now I’m in between.
- losteverything 9y agoI sprinkle all my online posts with random lies and inconsistencies... Gender. Location. Age.. Job.. Not many but enough to make me believe it would be harder to find out who i am
- matte_black 9y agoMany people do this as well, but mostly for fun.
- otakucode 9y agoWeird. I've been online since I was 12 and I never made stuff up about myself. I'm 39 now.
- deleted 9y ago[deleted]
- magic_beans 9y agoWhy not just use the opposite gender of your child? Or imply this child is one of several, given that you only have one?
- virgil_disgr4ce 9y agoWhat's wrong with gender neutrality?
- bastijn 9y agoNothing is wrong with gender neutrality. However, referring to one’s child in gender neutral form is not (that) common. Gender neutrality is there to avoid distinguishing roles according to people's sex or gender, in order to avoid discrimination arising from the impression that there are social roles for which one gender is more suited than another [0]. That is hardly the case when referring to one’s own child. Hence my follow-up assumption in the same comment that it might be for privacy reasons. The first statement in that comment on gender neutrality was led by the media taking the whole gender neutrality thing a bit too far nowadays. Some sources just follow the hype instead of looking at the argument for using it as stated above. That is my own opinion though and might be a deluded view on media articles i came across that went into the “did you just assume my gender” mode for stories where gender was totally irrelevant. I do realize the first sentence of my comment was a phrased a bit provoking because of the whole media thing. Sorry if that offended you and provoked you into this question (comment). Hope this answer helps to show I was not here to fight gender neutrality as a whole. [0] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_neutrality https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_neutrality