> I feel that expecting me to be exactly on time to non-work events is even more disrespectful because the stress of trying to make it on time makes my cortisol

> I feel that expecting me to be exactly on time to non-work events is even more disrespectful because the stress of trying to make it on time makes my cortisol levels go up and probably shortens my life expectancy. You could always have the best of both worlds by aiming privately to get there half an hour early. If you do run late you won’t be as stressed because you have a half hour buffer and if you are on time you can just chill somewhere until the appointed time. No cortisol either way.