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"Don't focus on doing these activities to meet potential romantic partners - do them to have fun because you enjoy them and meet other people who enjoy the same
by YuriNiyazov 9y ago
"Don't focus on doing these activities to meet potential romantic partners - do them to have fun because you enjoy them and meet other people who enjoy the same things."
I can't disagree with this enough.
If you want a job, are you going to continue going to the activities you've always been going to and hoping to meet someone that gives you work?
If you want an apartment to live in, are you going to go to the same activities you've been going to and hope that someone there is a landlord?
Maybe you would. But most people would check a jobs site or a rental site. Why would romantic relationships be any different?
- fencepost 9y ago> most people would check a jobs site or a rental site. Why would romantic relationships be any different? That is absolutely a viable approach, and it's one that works for a lot of people. In fact, the two of us have just described "searching for jobs" vs "networking for jobs." My point though was not so much to do those things to find a partner, but to get out and do things. Part of what you're looking for is not just relationships but (possibly) higher-quality relationships found through people who will vouch for those they're introducing. For different people "Our matching algorithms say you're an 80% match with this person" vs "Hey, I know someone you should meet" will have different levels of credibility and acceptance.
- TheCoelacanth 9y agoJobs and apartment leases are transactions. People don't like to think of their relationships as transactions.