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> I went to a ton of meetups and group events in real life over the course of three years (and to a lesser extent for years before that), met a lot of women thr
by fencepost 9y ago
> I went to a ton of meetups and group events in real life over the course of three years (and to a lesser extent for years before that), met a lot of women through that, but very few of them were either not in a relationship or emotionally available at the time
Don't go to events and activities looking for love. Go to events and activities looking for interesting people to get to know and be friends with - and let them be a filter of "Hey, I know someone you should meet" when they know you're single. Similarly, if you have friends who've never met but who are single and have similar interests, don't be afraid to introduce them to each other.
- cableshaft 9y agoIt wasn't specifically looking for love, I was mainly trying to get out of my shell and meet more people. I made a ton of friends from it, more than I can keep up with, and some of my closest friends today came from that period of time, so it was still very valuable. But I was also hoping it would help my dating prospects and it didn't seem to help much with that.
- fencepost 9y agoDo some of the people you've met that way know you're single and looking? There may even be 1-2 people that strike you as "this person knows everyone" or even "I think X hangs out with the kind of people I'd like to meet."
- cableshaft 9y agoI'm not actually single and looking anymore. I've been dating my current girlfriend for the past two and a half years, who I met on OKCupid. Also I was sorta kinda that 'person who knows everyone', or at least as much as anyone was. I went to a lot of meetups across many different groups that interested me. I ended up being the organizer for one of them.