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> One of the problems with Tinder is its nebulous ethos. It's not a really a problem though because people can indicate for themselves in their profiles, eithe
by dlandis 9y ago
> One of the problems with Tinder is its nebulous ethos.
It's not a really a problem though because people can indicate for themselves in their profiles, either explicitly or implicitly, what type of relationship they are looking for; it can be different things for different people.
> Tinder is brilliant in that it focuses entirely on vanity, ego, and lust, far more so than any of its predecessors.
But I think that misses the main appeal of Tinder, which is that once you match with someone you basically have an invitation to start a conversation with them, and hence are less likely to be wasting your time (or someone else's). IIRC, on other sites, you can simply message any random user and thus are much more likely to spend time messaging someone who has absolutely no interest in you.
- alpha_squared 9y ago> It's not a really a problem though because people can indicate for themselves in their profiles, either explicitly or implicitly, what type of relationship they are looking for; it can be different things for different people. In my anecdotal experience (which means feel free take with a handful of salt), it never really worked out that way. I've gone on dates via Tinder where a profile explicitly stated "no hookups" or something to that effect that did, indeed, turn into hookups. Also, and this is the more obvious thing, I think, is that a dating platform designed to not require you to actually read a profile before deciding if you're interested isn't going to be the ideal place for stating "preferences". Hence, my anecdotal experience.
- raverbashing 9y agoYup, "no hookups" -> wants a hookup So, it is indicated