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> The problem I have with meeting people from "real life" is that they're mostly random people that I usually have little to nothing in common with. "Real life
by username223 9y ago
> The problem I have with meeting people from "real life" is that they're mostly random people that I usually have little to nothing in common with.
"Real life" doesn't have to work that way. Do you enjoy cycling? Board games? Chess? Knitting? Great -- go out and do those things with other people! Unlike with an online dating checklist, those people probably won't be faking those interests, so you'll actually have something in common.
- nunez 9y agoMutual activities is a single factor in dating someone. Do they like sex? Do they want children? Do they want a house with a picket fence, or do they want to live nomadically? Do their political interests align with yours? Are they messy, or are they neat freaks? Etc ad nauseam Question-based dating sites match people on these criteria. That’s impossible to do with someone you meet at a bar.
- username223 9y agoI haven't been in the online dating game for awhile, but I found the list of checkboxes more useful in theory than in practice. Even when people didn't lie or mislead in their profiles, which they often did, I got a better idea of compatibility from a short in-person meeting than a lengthy written description. And bars are a terrible place to meet people, unless you want to meet people who enjoy hanging out in bars. Mutual activities often correlate with similar personality traits, and are enjoyable ways to spend time together.
- ravenstine 9y agoEven worse are the people who suggest going to a club.