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There are almost certainly hacker meetups or groups in your area that you can attend. My computer science teacher is currently hooking up with someone he met th

There are almost certainly hacker meetups or groups in your area that you can attend. My computer science teacher is currently hooking up with someone he met that way ;)

aaron-lebo 9y ago
Being a member of my local lug, this is the very last place most males will find anything other than a lot of other nerdy males. Which is cool, but it's a horrible way to hook up. Your odds get really bad. And as someone else pointed out, it's a great way to drive off women. The last thing a woman wants it to be gawked at by 16 men because they're looking for that nerdy girl. So they stop coming and you end up with the original situation, where it's 16 nerdy guys
jdavis703 9y ago
Behavior like this is why there’s rampant sexual harassment in places that should ostensibly be about something other than hooking up. I would recommend going to hacker meet ups to hack, and going elsewhere like a bar or club to look for a hookup.
- kazagistar 9y ago
  Bars or Clubs are for people who like drinking and dancing. It's very unlikely that you will randomly find someone there who shares meaningful interests.
  - jdavis703 9y ago
    Is this a discussion about finding people to date, or to hang out with? If it’s just about expanding your social network then you’re right, bars are bad unless your shared interests are drinking and dancing. But it seemed as if this thread was suggesting using social situations that aren’t about dating to find people to date.
- borplk 9y ago
  It doesn't have to be exclusively one or the other. It's like you are blaming people for having "impure intentions". Lots of things are like that. People who go to a local food event go there to eat food but also they know they are going to meet some people that they may like, at least for some people that's a part of the motivation too.
pavel_lishin 9y ago
There's a definitive stigma to attending events just to hook up with people. Our local Reddit NYC meetup group actively keeps an eye for people who appear to be doing this, because they keep showing up. And the problem isn't that they're looking for someone to date; the problem is that they're not at all invested in the group - and if you go to any group with only the intention of picking up a date, that's the vibe you'll throw off as well, and you'll be unwelcome there.
borplk 9y ago
If you are a straight male, statistically speaking a hacker meetup is probably not the best place to go for that :)

There are almost certainly hacker meetups or groups in your area that you can attend. My computer science teacher is currently hooking up with someone he met that way ;)

aaron-lebo 9y ago

Being a member of my local lug, this is the very last place most males will find anything other than a lot of other nerdy males. Which is cool, but it's a horrible way to hook up. Your odds get really bad. And as someone else pointed out, it's a great way to drive off women. The last thing a woman wants it to be gawked at by 16 men because they're looking for that nerdy girl. So they stop coming and you end up with the original situation, where it's 16 nerdy guys

jdavis703 9y ago

Behavior like this is why there’s rampant sexual harassment in places that should ostensibly be about something other than hooking up. I would recommend going to hacker meet ups to hack, and going elsewhere like a bar or club to look for a hookup.

kazagistar 9y ago
Bars or Clubs are for people who like drinking and dancing. It's very unlikely that you will randomly find someone there who shares meaningful interests.
- jdavis703 9y ago
  Is this a discussion about finding people to date, or to hang out with? If it’s just about expanding your social network then you’re right, bars are bad unless your shared interests are drinking and dancing. But it seemed as if this thread was suggesting using social situations that aren’t about dating to find people to date.
borplk 9y ago
It doesn't have to be exclusively one or the other. It's like you are blaming people for having "impure intentions". Lots of things are like that. People who go to a local food event go there to eat food but also they know they are going to meet some people that they may like, at least for some people that's a part of the motivation too.

pavel_lishin 9y ago

There's a definitive stigma to attending events just to hook up with people. Our local Reddit NYC meetup group actively keeps an eye for people who appear to be doing this, because they keep showing up. And the problem isn't that they're looking for someone to date; the problem is that they're not at all invested in the group - and if you go to any group with only the intention of picking up a date, that's the vibe you'll throw off as well, and you'll be unwelcome there.

borplk 9y ago

If you are a straight male, statistically speaking a hacker meetup is probably not the best place to go for that :)