Thanks, I briefly considered consulting the HN hive mind for alternatives that were not "wasting [...] time" but chose to avoid going off the rails as coming an

Thanks, I briefly considered consulting the HN hive mind for alternatives that were not "wasting [...] time" but chose to avoid going off the rails as coming anywhere near "dating tips" often has here in the past. Didn't mean to leave you hanging like that... I guess I need to spend a bit more time before clicking 'add comment' on rising stories. My personal recommendation sounds like a specific subset of yours -- meet people by volunteering, expecting to learn from rejection as the initiator. In-person interaction can overcome the specific shortfall that is the primary topic of this discussion - getting/giving(!) a chance orthogonally to attractiveness. The volunteering bit provides a framework for shared direction and is beneficial well beyond meeting strangers (don't volunteer solely to start relationships!). This comment covered some caveats: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801