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Put yourself in situations where the people you’re attracted to have to spend a fair amount of time talking with you. Initial snap judgements can be overcome af
by sulam 9y ago
Put yourself in situations where the people you’re attracted to have to spend a fair amount of time talking with you. Initial snap judgements can be overcome after a few hours of interaction. You probably won’t be able to date a celebrity this way (although if you live in LA and work in the film industry, I will adjust my probabilities) — but you can absolutely meet and date attractive people that way.
(Why’d you edit out your question? I thought it was interesting!)
- j_s 9y agoThanks, I briefly considered consulting the HN hive mind for alternatives that were not "wasting [...] time" but chose to avoid going off the rails as coming anywhere near "dating tips" often has here in the past. Didn't mean to leave you hanging like that... I guess I need to spend a bit more time before clicking 'add comment' on rising stories. My personal recommendation sounds like a specific subset of yours -- meet people by volunteering, expecting to learn from rejection as the initiator. In-person interaction can overcome the specific shortfall that is the primary topic of this discussion - getting/giving(!) a chance orthogonally to attractiveness. The volunteering bit provides a framework for shared direction and is beneficial well beyond meeting strangers (don't volunteer solely to start relationships!). This comment covered some caveats: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801