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The methodology shows the position of power that companies collecting data inevitably leverage: Tinder doesn't supply any statistics or analytics about member

by j_s 9y ago

The methodology shows the position of power that companies collecting data inevitably leverage: Tinder doesn't supply any statistics or analytics about member usage so I had to collect this data myself. The most important data I needed was the percent of men that these females tended to “like”. I collected this data by interviewing females who had “liked” a fake Tinder profile I set up. I asked them each several questions about their Tinder usage while they thought they were talking to an attractive male who was interested in them. Lying in this way is ethically questionable at best (and highly entertaining), but, unfortunately I had no other way to get the required data. Netflix's recently released (Dec 29) Black Mirror season 4 episode 4 "[explored] Tinder and Siri-like technologies": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hang_the_DJ_(Black_Mirror) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hang_the_DJ_(Black_Mirror)

sulam 9y ago
Put yourself in situations where the people you’re attracted to have to spend a fair amount of time talking with you. Initial snap judgements can be overcome after a few hours of interaction. You probably won’t be able to date a celebrity this way (although if you live in LA and work in the film industry, I will adjust my probabilities) — but you can absolutely meet and date attractive people that way. (Why’d you edit out your question? I thought it was interesting!)
- j_s 9y ago
  Thanks, I briefly considered consulting the HN hive mind for alternatives that were not "wasting [...] time" but chose to avoid going off the rails as coming anywhere near "dating tips" often has here in the past. Didn't mean to leave you hanging like that... I guess I need to spend a bit more time before clicking 'add comment' on rising stories. My personal recommendation sounds like a specific subset of yours -- meet people by volunteering, expecting to learn from rejection as the initiator. In-person interaction can overcome the specific shortfall that is the primary topic of this discussion - getting/giving(!) a chance orthogonally to attractiveness. The volunteering bit provides a framework for shared direction and is beneficial well beyond meeting strangers (don't volunteer solely to start relationships!). This comment covered some caveats: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801

by j_s 9y ago

sulam 9y ago

Put yourself in situations where the people you’re attracted to have to spend a fair amount of time talking with you. Initial snap judgements can be overcome after a few hours of interaction. You probably won’t be able to date a celebrity this way (although if you live in LA and work in the film industry, I will adjust my probabilities) — but you can absolutely meet and date attractive people that way. (Why’d you edit out your question? I thought it was interesting!)

j_s 9y ago
Thanks, I briefly considered consulting the HN hive mind for alternatives that were not "wasting [...] time" but chose to avoid going off the rails as coming anywhere near "dating tips" often has here in the past. Didn't mean to leave you hanging like that... I guess I need to spend a bit more time before clicking 'add comment' on rising stories. My personal recommendation sounds like a specific subset of yours -- meet people by volunteering, expecting to learn from rejection as the initiator. In-person interaction can overcome the specific shortfall that is the primary topic of this discussion - getting/giving(!) a chance orthogonally to attractiveness. The volunteering bit provides a framework for shared direction and is beneficial well beyond meeting strangers (don't volunteer solely to start relationships!). This comment covered some caveats: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16041801