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Porn not Netflix, why would any male want sex with the effort of chasing a woman, romanticising, dealing with the hard-line feminists, when they can just knock

Porn not Netflix, why would any male want sex with the effort of chasing a woman, romanticising, dealing with the hard-line feminists, when they can just knock one out for free?

sidlls 9y ago
Because there is more intimacy in almost every way (physical, emotional, etc.) with another human being than oneself. Almost anyone who has actually had sex is likely to describe it as being superior to masturbation, in general, whatever the stimuli for the latter.
leroy_masochist 9y ago
Dealing with the hard-line feminists sounds exhausting
throwawaymonkie 9y ago
Why is this downvoted? Hacker News is designed to appeal to cowards: someone had an opinion I didn't like, lets downvote with no accountability. I've seen multiple times in here that the users really liked the idea of people with different opinions should talk with each other instead of remaining in their own echo chamber. But the walk is much harder than the talk, just see what's happening here with any decending opinion.
always_good 9y ago
Dunno, I can't imagine most men actually preferring masturbation over sex when given the choice. Most men would consider themselves in a spot of sexual destitution if all they were doing was wanking. I think more likely the modern male is barraged by messages like "approaching women is 'rapey'/creepy." And it's easier for people to get by without developing social skills. If men aren't approaching women, then nobody gets laid. I reckon there's a gradual collapse in the confidence and self-identity of the modern western male that can be tied to some sort of Everyone Loves Raymond emasculation slash feminization going on in our culture. For example, along with these positive women's rights messages that most men support, there also are messages that look a lot like women-can-do-no-wrong which end up alienating men. Or something I can only describe as male-shaming. https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703779704576073752925629440 https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703779704576073...
dragonwriter 9y ago
Men have been able to knock one out for free since, at least, the evolution of opposable thumbs (and those probably aren't strictly necessary). Porn isn't material.
- amriksohata 9y ago
  Not with the same stimulation and reason, that's why many Japanese men are steering clear of marriage and children, they want to do what their minds are programmed to do, not deal with tasks women traditionally do , and for them, they don't need a relationship to fulfill their other needs.

Porn not Netflix, why would any male want sex with the effort of chasing a woman, romanticising, dealing with the hard-line feminists, when they can just knock one out for free?

sidlls 9y ago

Because there is more intimacy in almost every way (physical, emotional, etc.) with another human being than oneself. Almost anyone who has actually had sex is likely to describe it as being superior to masturbation, in general, whatever the stimuli for the latter.

leroy_masochist 9y ago

Dealing with the hard-line feminists sounds exhausting

throwawaymonkie 9y ago

Why is this downvoted? Hacker News is designed to appeal to cowards: someone had an opinion I didn't like, lets downvote with no accountability. I've seen multiple times in here that the users really liked the idea of people with different opinions should talk with each other instead of remaining in their own echo chamber. But the walk is much harder than the talk, just see what's happening here with any decending opinion.

always_good 9y ago

Dunno, I can't imagine most men actually preferring masturbation over sex when given the choice. Most men would consider themselves in a spot of sexual destitution if all they were doing was wanking. I think more likely the modern male is barraged by messages like "approaching women is 'rapey'/creepy." And it's easier for people to get by without developing social skills. If men aren't approaching women, then nobody gets laid. I reckon there's a gradual collapse in the confidence and self-identity of the modern western male that can be tied to some sort of Everyone Loves Raymond emasculation slash feminization going on in our culture. For example, along with these positive women's rights messages that most men support, there also are messages that look a lot like women-can-do-no-wrong which end up alienating men. Or something I can only describe as male-shaming. https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703779704576073752925629440 https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703779704576073...

dragonwriter 9y ago

Men have been able to knock one out for free since, at least, the evolution of opposable thumbs (and those probably aren't strictly necessary). Porn isn't material.

amriksohata 9y ago
Not with the same stimulation and reason, that's why many Japanese men are steering clear of marriage and children, they want to do what their minds are programmed to do, not deal with tasks women traditionally do , and for them, they don't need a relationship to fulfill their other needs.