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It's a lot harder to make new friends when you're older, too. Most of the people I meet don't really have time to make new friends; they barely keep their old
by dkarl 16y ago
It's a lot harder to make new friends when you're older, too. Most of the people I meet don't really have time to make new friends; they barely keep their old friends in maintenance mode, getting together with them every couple of months for some ancient ritual they've always done together, such as golf. You have lunch or drinks with somebody once a week, and you're in. You know, that's a pretty high level of recognition from them. But it's futile; it's going to take you two years to get to know them at that rate.
- dkarl 16y agoAs if to make my point, an old friend of mine announced his birthday plans today. He's going to a water park (for his stepdaughter) and a bed and breakfast (for his wife.) The rest of us? Nothing. No party, no dinner and drinks, nothing. He's living in a new city and has nobody close by except family, but he's got friends wanting to come from out of town to see him. One is me; another is our best friend from high school, whom he hasn't seen in over a year. So, maybe some other weekend, he says. Fuck that; I know that song. It'll never happen. I'd write him off as an asshole and a lost cause if that wasn't typical for the married guys I know. Should I even bother with "friends" like that, or should I forget about him and call him again when his kids are out of the house?