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I know lots of loners who want friends but have none, because of fear and a lack of drive, not a personality disorder.

• MartinCron 16y ago
  You know them, but are you friends with them?
  • ahoyhere 16y ago
    A few, who are charming but socially afraid. (Depending on your outlook, I am either supremely approachable, or outright terrifying - because I am both loud and friendly.) The ones who have absolutely no social skills, no. But they feel very different in their lack of social skills than a person who has a genuine mental problem. It's like, they've gotten so long by decrying it, that now it'd be a big blow to their ego to do something as stupid and minor as read a book on social skills. You can see in their eyes that they're hurting from being alone, though. I've also met lots of loners who probably do "have something wrong with them", who are wrong in a scary fashion. They certainly exist - it's a symptom. But many who have the symptom don't have the disease.