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I've always wondered about the timing to bring up such a topic. How "very beginning" is very beginning for you, if you wouldn't mind sharing?
by hkmurakami 9y ago
I've always wondered about the timing to bring up such a topic. How "very beginning" is very beginning for you, if you wouldn't mind sharing?
- rubicon33 9y agoWe talked about marriage early in our relationship (within the first month). The conversation was more about marriage in the abstract sense than it was about OUR (potential at the time) marriage. I've always been a blunt, upfront person. Transparent as a plane glass window. Since we were talking about marriage, I just threw in a casual "when I get married, there 100% will be a pre-nub or it's not happening". As well as a few other "hard stops". As time went on the marriage conversations became more about US getting married... OUR marriage. I made sure at nearly every point to remind her of my "hard stops". They're the kind of thing you never want to be vague about, and are worth stating VERY early in the relationship, in my opinion.