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Why is it ironic? Isn't it simple default that there are fewer successful people in most commonly used metrics like financially, socially, culturally etc? So if
by geodel 9y ago
Why is it ironic? Isn't it simple default that there are fewer successful people in most commonly used metrics like financially, socially, culturally etc? So if a women is successful they will have less mates to choose from.
- belorn 9y agoIf we pick that as the default, then is it then not ironic that successful men (using financial metrics) have a larger option pool of mates? I personally don't find either ironic, but rather a very clear difference between the genders in the correlation between financial success and dating. The really interesting part is the causes of this difference, and whom is driving it.
- geodel 9y agoI think larger option pool is not equal to larger option pool to 'marry up'. What I have seen is that successful males often execute option of selecting prettier females instead of successful ones. This thing is far more common in poorer non-western societies but I imagine western societies wouldn't be totally immune to this.
- watwut 9y agoIt is trophy wife thing. You marry to signal to other guys that you are above them sexually, but you are not actually looking to do things together with wife, spend time with her or anything like that.
- user5994461 9y agoNo, it's not a default. The default is that successful women have a bigger pool to choose from and they really do. What happen in practice is that they refuse to consider anyone who is not more than themselves, effectively ignoring the vast majority of the pool. The more successful and pretty, the bigger the pool, which they balance by being even more selective.
- kaitai 9y ago"[T]hey refuse to consider.." We all bring our own experiences, but as one of those highly educated women, many men refuse to consider me. A lot of guys do still want someone who doesn't match them economically or intellectually. Of course this is not universal. But have you ever had a guy (gal) just walk away from you in a club after hearing what you do for a living? Math. The death knell for a previously reasonable flirtation.
- user5994461 9y agoI stopped disclosing what I do for a living a long long time ago.