Thanks for the story -- that is great to hear. While I don't have kids, many of my friends do, and it is uncanny how kids pick up their parents' worst behavior

Thanks for the story -- that is great to hear. While I don't have kids, many of my friends do, and it is uncanny how kids pick up their parents' worst behavior. I used to think of this as a depressing inevitability, but I agree with you that it's not. And I agree that "reasons" and motivation are the main driver for change. I think smoking is a great analogy, because everyone it's now "objectively" bad. I used to smoke, but I would convince myself that it's OK. "I don't smoke that much", etc. But that was because I wanted to smoke (circular logic). My reptile brain convinced me that it was OK. Likewise I think many people convince themselves that their behavior is OK, because their reptile brain wants to keep doing it. But the first step is just to admit that what you're doing is not OK, even if you "plan" to keep doing it. If you admit it to yourself for long enough, you might eventually get the motivation to change.