Well, to each their own. But I've been through numerous ordeals in my career where I pulled out all the stops to change myself or change my role in order to han

Well, to each their own. But I've been through numerous ordeals in my career where I pulled out all the stops to change myself or change my role in order to hang on to a company that fundamentally wasn't a fit. I regret wasting all that time. Never did I look back and feel glad that I'd tried everything. Never did any of the consequences I feared from quitting, happen. Yes, this is especially easy for programmers in a long running seller's market, but I like to think it generalizes to some degree. Also, I immediately thought of trying to change yourself to make a romantic relationship work. Now, if you're unhappy with yourself, then by all means, change. But otherwise, I think changing yourself to make a relationship work is questionable.