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Not sure if this is terribly awesome or immensely sad

by Sytten 9y ago

ohstopitu 9y ago
There have been times when I've felt extremly lonely. I think an app like this which connects lonely people together would be awesome! I generally just visit some random subreddits or random rooms on Discord when I feel lonely.
- blueatlas 9y ago
  Or, connect lonely people to those that might lend an ear, offer advice, or just offer support in some other way.
  - norlys 9y ago
    That's 7cups of tea.
  - ohstopitu 9y ago
    Suicide hotlines are generally under handed, I don't think we have enough people to help lonely people just yet.
  - Fnoord 9y ago
    Normally, I'd say go see your doctor. I'm not sure if he has solid advice for einsamkeit but at least he can reference to a psychologist so you can get treated for depression. Many elder people are lonely, but the underlying problem is actually depression. There's an alternative to creating an Instagram or Facebook for lonely people: learn to deal with it, and take the positive out of loneliness. 1) You don't have to take other's viewpoints, desires, preferences, opinions into account. 2) You can live in silence, and can therefore decide if/when you play audio or video, read a book, play the piano. Heck, do a solo sport, or meditate. Once you have solace with being lonely, you can be productive. You'll be able to for example study, you'll be able to write a book. Then, when you do meet other people, you'll have something meaningful to sure. And then an application like this can hook these people up. But I wonder if platforms like Instagram and Facebook don't already also serve that purpose. Or, heck, something like deviantArt. If you can't entertain yourself while you're alone or if you can't be productive while you're alone that's not loneliness. That's depression. I adore being alone, its when I'm most productive. Then again, I'm a loner, and I embraced that, and because I was only child I learned to entertain myself whilst being alone.
wtsui 9y ago
Thanks for the feedback. I created this project because I know many people who struggled with loneliness at times in their lives. My hope is that by sharing this experience we’ll feel a sense of connection when we’re alone, and find more acceptance of ourselves and our aloneness, however happy, peaceful, or sad.
- QAPereo 9y ago
  Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole.
  - wtsui 9y ago
    Agree with this. It'll be important for Solo to highlight and even celebrate the positive aspects of being alone to avoid this.
  - IncRnd 9y ago
    > Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole. Being alone is not a sickness. The site, when viewed on mobile even without an app, shows the first entry as someone who climbed a mountain when alone. Another learned about the three poisons, and yet a third chose to read a series of books.
    - QAPereo 9y ago
      “App for sharing lonliness and aloneness...” Lose the semantic crap, and the cherry picking.
      - IncRnd 9y ago
        > “App for sharing lonliness and aloneness...” The words "loneliness and aloneness" don't mean what you think. Read the comment to which you replied and which was written by the author of the app, "and find more acceptance of ourselves and our aloneness, however happy, peaceful, or sad." > Lose the semantic crap. There are better ways to relate to people.

Not sure if this is terribly awesome or immensely sad

by Sytten 9y ago

Not sure if this is terribly awesome or immensely sad

There have been times when I've felt extremly lonely. I think an app like this which connects lonely people together would be awesome! I generally just visit some random subreddits or random rooms on Discord when I feel lonely.

blueatlas 9y ago
Or, connect lonely people to those that might lend an ear, offer advice, or just offer support in some other way.
- norlys 9y ago
  That's 7cups of tea.
- ohstopitu 9y ago
  Suicide hotlines are generally under handed, I don't think we have enough people to help lonely people just yet.
- Fnoord 9y ago
  Normally, I'd say go see your doctor. I'm not sure if he has solid advice for einsamkeit but at least he can reference to a psychologist so you can get treated for depression. Many elder people are lonely, but the underlying problem is actually depression. There's an alternative to creating an Instagram or Facebook for lonely people: learn to deal with it, and take the positive out of loneliness. 1) You don't have to take other's viewpoints, desires, preferences, opinions into account. 2) You can live in silence, and can therefore decide if/when you play audio or video, read a book, play the piano. Heck, do a solo sport, or meditate. Once you have solace with being lonely, you can be productive. You'll be able to for example study, you'll be able to write a book. Then, when you do meet other people, you'll have something meaningful to sure. And then an application like this can hook these people up. But I wonder if platforms like Instagram and Facebook don't already also serve that purpose. Or, heck, something like deviantArt. If you can't entertain yourself while you're alone or if you can't be productive while you're alone that's not loneliness. That's depression. I adore being alone, its when I'm most productive. Then again, I'm a loner, and I embraced that, and because I was only child I learned to entertain myself whilst being alone.

wtsui 9y ago

Thanks for the feedback. I created this project because I know many people who struggled with loneliness at times in their lives. My hope is that by sharing this experience we’ll feel a sense of connection when we’re alone, and find more acceptance of ourselves and our aloneness, however happy, peaceful, or sad.

QAPereo 9y ago
Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole.
- wtsui 9y ago
  Agree with this. It'll be important for Solo to highlight and even celebrate the positive aspects of being alone to avoid this.
- IncRnd 9y ago
  > Maybe, although generally when you fill a room with sick people, they don’t make each other well. Group therapy can work, but it takes the guidance of people not currently looking up from a hole. Being alone is not a sickness. The site, when viewed on mobile even without an app, shows the first entry as someone who climbed a mountain when alone. Another learned about the three poisons, and yet a third chose to read a series of books.
  - QAPereo 9y ago
    “App for sharing lonliness and aloneness...” Lose the semantic crap, and the cherry picking.
    - IncRnd 9y ago
      > “App for sharing lonliness and aloneness...” The words "loneliness and aloneness" don't mean what you think. Read the comment to which you replied and which was written by the author of the app, "and find more acceptance of ourselves and our aloneness, however happy, peaceful, or sad." > Lose the semantic crap. There are better ways to relate to people.