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Okcupid with real names is like facebook without any privacy controls. You can filter on cities, interests, languages, .. to search people. Most users have answ

by vimy 9y ago

Okcupid with real names is like facebook without any privacy controls. You can filter on cities, interests, languages, .. to search people. Most users have answered hundreds of personal questions and give away even more info within the essays. A lot of personal information. You can't search people on Tinder or Bumble. There's also way less personal information on Tinder or Bumble. (I don't know Hinge.)

dvt 9y ago
But you don't have to use real names[1]. This is such a non-issue, it blows my mind people are freaking out about it. [1] https://twitter.com/okcupid/status/944255764193038343 https://twitter.com/okcupid/status/944255764193038343
- jacques_chester 9y ago
  It looks as though they edited the blogpost and FAQ after the initial backlash. There are people saying they saw the difference and screenshots of the initial website and app notifications clearly saying "real name" and "first name": https://imgur.com/aOIKjKR https://imgur.com/aOIKjKR https://imgur.com/r/OkCupid/LaYdmba https://imgur.com/r/OkCupid/LaYdmba It's a bad look.
- vimy 9y ago
  The subject of the email I got was “Heads up: we’re replacing usernames with real names” With a big green button “Add my name”. I ignored it but I couldn’t use the website without changing my name. It clearly stated “Add your real name”.
  - nugi 9y ago
    In the app, just hit a button at bottom while it loads to bypass for now.
- stormbrew 9y ago
  If they're not enforcing it or planning to, why even do it? Ballerinacat69 will just say their name is ballerinacat69 and then what has anyone gained? In the end they're going to get users reporting people or even harassing people for having "obvious" fake names (and many of those reports will be against trans people using the name they actually use). So either they're going to have to do something about fake names or they've just established a cultural norm for their site that will be toxic for many of their users. Or you could just assume people are being hysterical as your first default assumption I suppose.
  - dvt 9y ago
    You're making it seem like my default assumption is completely off-base, and yet I think that "harassing people for having 'obvious' fake names" is reaching so hard, my assumption is almost innocuous by comparison. I mean, just think about it: why would people harass someone with a name of "xyz123" but not harass someone with a handle of "xyz123." The distinction is a non-distinction and, yes, people are being hysterical for no good reason. Publications like The Verge (and Vox, and Kotaku, to name a few others) pander this kind of social hysteria as a means to get clicks, and by extension, ad revenue. I personally think it's disgusting.
    - stormbrew 9y ago
      People harass trans people for having 'fake names' all the time. Trust me, it's not something I'm making up.
      - draugadrotten 9y ago
        And worse, like this case from Philly illustrates. http://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/news/a47329/transgender-woman-beaten-shot-to-death-by-group-of-men/ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/news/a47329/transgender...

by vimy 9y ago

dvt 9y ago

But you don't have to use real names[1]. This is such a non-issue, it blows my mind people are freaking out about it. [1] https://twitter.com/okcupid/status/944255764193038343 https://twitter.com/okcupid/status/944255764193038343

jacques_chester 9y ago
It looks as though they edited the blogpost and FAQ after the initial backlash. There are people saying they saw the difference and screenshots of the initial website and app notifications clearly saying "real name" and "first name": https://imgur.com/aOIKjKR https://imgur.com/aOIKjKR https://imgur.com/r/OkCupid/LaYdmba https://imgur.com/r/OkCupid/LaYdmba It's a bad look.
vimy 9y ago
The subject of the email I got was “Heads up: we’re replacing usernames with real names” With a big green button “Add my name”. I ignored it but I couldn’t use the website without changing my name. It clearly stated “Add your real name”.
- nugi 9y ago
  In the app, just hit a button at bottom while it loads to bypass for now.
stormbrew 9y ago
If they're not enforcing it or planning to, why even do it? Ballerinacat69 will just say their name is ballerinacat69 and then what has anyone gained? In the end they're going to get users reporting people or even harassing people for having "obvious" fake names (and many of those reports will be against trans people using the name they actually use). So either they're going to have to do something about fake names or they've just established a cultural norm for their site that will be toxic for many of their users. Or you could just assume people are being hysterical as your first default assumption I suppose.
- dvt 9y ago
  You're making it seem like my default assumption is completely off-base, and yet I think that "harassing people for having 'obvious' fake names" is reaching so hard, my assumption is almost innocuous by comparison. I mean, just think about it: why would people harass someone with a name of "xyz123" but not harass someone with a handle of "xyz123." The distinction is a non-distinction and, yes, people are being hysterical for no good reason. Publications like The Verge (and Vox, and Kotaku, to name a few others) pander this kind of social hysteria as a means to get clicks, and by extension, ad revenue. I personally think it's disgusting.
  - stormbrew 9y ago
    People harass trans people for having 'fake names' all the time. Trust me, it's not something I'm making up.
    - draugadrotten 9y ago
      And worse, like this case from Philly illustrates. http://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/news/a47329/transgender-woman-beaten-shot-to-death-by-group-of-men/ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/news/a47329/transgender...