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no, that's different. Sure, we all settle for the best we think can get, or the first 'good enough' (or the third 'good enough' or whatever. we choose a mat
by lsc 16y ago
no, that's different. Sure, we all settle for the best we think can get, or the first 'good enough' (or the third 'good enough' or whatever. we choose a mate. You are unlikely to pick the absolute most optimal person.)
The previous comments in this thread (and the article) suggest that once you do choose a person, for whatever reason, "settling" or not, you should put some effort in to better understanding and relating to them.
- sn 16y agoToo bad my presence on hacker news doesn't count.
- lsc 16y agoActually, it's a pretty good example, I think, of how you pay more attention to the boring business crap I care about, even though we already have pretty big overlaps in professional interests. I certainly feel like you value me, and that you value my skills, even though it could be said that you are, uh, more technically skilled than I am. I was mostly speaking out of past relationship experiences... at one point I was seeing a student- a psychology major, even. She thought my skills and interests were, well, kindof dumb, and I felt the same way about hers (I was, uh, quite a lot younger than I am now.) I think the relationship lasted all of two months, and it is pretty amazing, considering how little we were willing to value the mental aspects of the other, that it lasted that long.