There are ways to gauge interest without asking. The classic "getting 70% closer and letting the other person kiss" is one way. I'm not saying people should b

There are ways to gauge interest without asking. The classic "getting 70% closer and letting the other person kiss" is one way. I'm not saying people should be able to kiss someone out of the blue, but if it feels like the other person is interested (for example if they reciprocated your flirting) then I don't see the issue with trying. I did ask for a kiss more than once when I was socially inept; it killed the mood every time. Never again. The same people I asked came around later and I had meaningful relationships with them. So don't tell me "attitude like yours" Edit: I should add that different people have different ways to see it, I get that. For example some women might like being asked if they want to split the bill, seeing it as a sign of respect, others might not like it at all. So one has to decide case by case.