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I can’t imagine a group of people and less trust and want to manage my relationships at that level than the people who run Facebook. If I’m being honest I can’

I can’t imagine a group of people and less trust and want to manage my relationships at that level than the people who run Facebook. If I’m being honest I can’t think of a third-party I’d like to relegate that responsibility to, not that I think it should be relegated, it is after all central to the process of maintaining friendships. Maybe the “friendship“ people think they have online is something other than what is traditionally been thought of as friendship.

macintux 9y ago
When you die, how effective are you going to be at telling everyone you consider your friends that you've passed on? Do you have an email list right now that someone could use to share that news and hit 100% of your friends? The nature of "Facebook friendship" as it pertains to real friendship is orthogonal and irrelevant to this question: in a world where genuine friendship spans continents and social circles, how do you notify everyone who cares that someone has died?
- EpicEng 9y ago
  The people who matter would know because they are involved in your life. Everyone else is just someone you used to know. Let's not up and change the definition of 'friend' to someone you haven't seen or spoken to personally in years but resides in your FB friends list.
  - macintux 9y ago
    My definition of friendship includes people I haven't interacted with in years, and that definition long predates my involvement with Facebook. Most of my friends aren't actually "friends" on Facebook. Anyway, it's clear that people are thinking I'm an advocate for the Facebook definition of friendship, which is in no way what I wrote, but whatever.
- QAPereo 9y ago
  When you die, how effective are you going to be at telling everyone you consider your friends that you've passed on? Do you have an email list right now that someone could use to share that news and hit 100% of your friends? Yes, and my next of kin has a clearly written set of instructions to follow in that event. Plus I don’t have hundreds of “friends” defined by algorithms, just friends who would rapidly miss me and inquire as to why I vanished. It’s the kind of thing you consider when dealing with actual people, and not just text you’ve read to yourself and attributed to a set of imaginings you call your “FB Friend” and which may or may not bear any particular relationship to the real person.

macintux 9y ago

When you die, how effective are you going to be at telling everyone you consider your friends that you've passed on? Do you have an email list right now that someone could use to share that news and hit 100% of your friends? The nature of "Facebook friendship" as it pertains to real friendship is orthogonal and irrelevant to this question: in a world where genuine friendship spans continents and social circles, how do you notify everyone who cares that someone has died?

EpicEng 9y ago
The people who matter would know because they are involved in your life. Everyone else is just someone you used to know. Let's not up and change the definition of 'friend' to someone you haven't seen or spoken to personally in years but resides in your FB friends list.
- macintux 9y ago
  My definition of friendship includes people I haven't interacted with in years, and that definition long predates my involvement with Facebook. Most of my friends aren't actually "friends" on Facebook. Anyway, it's clear that people are thinking I'm an advocate for the Facebook definition of friendship, which is in no way what I wrote, but whatever.
QAPereo 9y ago
When you die, how effective are you going to be at telling everyone you consider your friends that you've passed on? Do you have an email list right now that someone could use to share that news and hit 100% of your friends? Yes, and my next of kin has a clearly written set of instructions to follow in that event. Plus I don’t have hundreds of “friends” defined by algorithms, just friends who would rapidly miss me and inquire as to why I vanished. It’s the kind of thing you consider when dealing with actual people, and not just text you’ve read to yourself and attributed to a set of imaginings you call your “FB Friend” and which may or may not bear any particular relationship to the real person.