One side ostracizes the "other" in an attempt at superiority and domination, as they are naturally driven to do. The other side places the "other" on a pedestal

One side ostracizes the "other" in an attempt at superiority and domination, as they are naturally driven to do. The other side places the "other" on a pedestal, in an attempt at submissiveness and placation, as they feel natural. The "other" sees this for what it is - 2 people pandering instead of including them into a group of 3 equals. When confronted, each side will claim this is how they include people, and accuse of sowing dissent. The more people I meet, the more I realize there is no "them" - there is us, just us, and more of us.