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> One of our main goals as a parent is to create independent kids who can function alone in the world - we don't want them still living in the basement at 30 F
by throwaway613834 9y ago
> One of our main goals as a parent is to create independent kids who can function alone in the world - we don't want them still living in the basement at 30
FYI this is a cultural thing. Not every culture's parents kicks out their children when they turn 18. So if it doesn't work out this way for whatever reason, don't view it as right or wrong unless you feel it's wrong to go against the culture (which also isn't inherently wrong either).
- Taniwha 9y agoOh we didn't kick them out, they left when they wanted to go, and have come back at times when it has made sense (after college for a while to save money for example).
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- keerthiko 9y agoAmerican culture is the ultra-contradiction of both expecting kids to be independent at 18 (or 22 with well-to-do families) AND kids not being able to develop that independence at all growing up. EDIT: The expectation of independence at 18 is not just between parents and the kid, but sometimes the kid's older SO, or society, or some other people who constantly repeat "once you're 18 you can do what you want", except they have no idea how to do it responsibly.