Per my anthropology class in college, about 10 percent of men and women answered “yes” to a question like “have you cheated on your partner in the last year?”

Per my anthropology class in college, about 10 percent of men and women answered “yes” to a question like “have you cheated on your partner in the last year?” It’s a little inhumane to make individual men responsible for the weight of western civilization’s treatment of women when they’re trying to do right by their partners. I determined years ago that I’m some combination of unwilling or unable to maintain monogamous relationships, so I stopped making that commitment. Even without that constraint, being romantically engaged with people is at best distracting and at worst destructive, and so structure my life so as to avoid engendering those feelings. When I spend time with members of the sex I find attractive, I inevitably want to escalate. It’s my unsubstantiated conjecture that this is why traditional societies had separate gender roles. Same sex groups take so much less emotional energy.