> "Keep social distance around people you have power over" seems extreme (especially if you interpret it like many in this sub-thread do) and almost strawmannis

> "Keep social distance around people you have power over" seems extreme (especially if you interpret it like many in this sub-thread do) and almost strawmannish: You could ask, if you're a person of some standing and seek a relationship who are you allowed to ask? Anyone outside your field and/or occupation. It's that simple. I actually don't understand this line of reasoning at all. You propose it as a bit of a strawman, but there's always at least one earnest comment in such threads to the effect of "well, now you can't flirt with ANYONE at work!" That's correct. You can't flirt with anyone at work. The problem isn't the set of social guidelines that say you don't try to fuck your colleagues. The problem is the people who seem to think that because their personal inclinations make it unpalatable to seek romantic encounters outside of work, that they're entitled to seek romantic encounters at work. They/ you are not. Find hobbies; ask friends for friends-of-friends that are looking; hit up OKCupid or Tinder or what-have-you. There are any number of ways to seek romantic entanglements that completely divorce you from the issues of power dynamics that occur when courting professional colleagues. Just stop.