> not free to force any woman to be part of this experience, which you are doing any time you treat a female colleague differently than you would a male colleag

> not free to force any woman to be part of this experience, which you are doing any time you treat a female colleague differently than you would a male colleague I really think you're taking the point a bit too far here. There's plenty of polite and civilized ways of making a romantic advance on a colleague that wouldn't in any way qualify as "forcing" anyone to do something.