“You know the black guys, they had to do three times as much work just to be accepted because they were black,” Yellin said. “And I had to be three times as goo

“You know the black guys, they had to do three times as much work just to be accepted because they were black,” Yellin said. “And I had to be three times as good just to be accepted.” The entire time I was growing up in the 70's and 80's, my Korean parents told me, again and again, that this was how it was going to be for me in this country. This is how in-group/out-group psychology works. That's how people are. There is a huge difference between people who will make you work 3 times harder, but will accept you in the end on merit, and people who won't, no matter what you do. It's the same difference as between people who can listen to and learn from their enemies, and people who can't listen no matter what. Some people are subordinate to truth and beauty beyond themselves and their particular world view, and some are not. It's the former who ultimately move the world forward and the latter who unwittingly hold it back. People who see you as a human being, regardless of your outward signifiers? Those people are rare. They are geniuses of one sort or another.