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Were you ever irked by a polite, yet completely groundless compliment, offered out of convention? For example, when someone who is completely unqualified to jud
by CodeMage 16y ago
Were you ever irked by a polite, yet completely groundless compliment, offered out of convention? For example, when someone who is completely unqualified to judge your work tells you "Great job!"
In a situation like that, I often feel two simultaneous reactions, one being "How would you know?" and the other "I appreciate the sentiment." Guess which one I choose to act upon?
Just as "great job" from someone who doesn't know anything about it is not such a big deal because it was simply a nice gesture, so can "too much time on his hands" be (sometimes) considered to be no big deal because there was no specific malice behind it.
In other words, while I agree with the sentiment, people sometimes need to grow a skin bit thicker than they have.
- KeithMajhor 16y agoShallow compliments do irritate me. It's not that I'm offended it's just that I don't know how to respond. There's nothing polite that wouldn't be equally shallow. A genuine and deliberate person is rare but valuable.
- powrtoch 16y agoI'm usually irked by socially-automatic remarks in general. I can't tell you how sick I am of someone at work answering "How are you?" with "Well, I'm here (frown/shrug)", or "It's Monday (frown/shrug)".
- robryan 16y agoAnd the social required "How are you?" question in the first place when the person asking really doesn't care and equally on the other side the person doesn't want to truthfully answer anyway,