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I actually like Christmas party (it helps I was working for great companies and with colleagues I actually like and I don’t go out as much as I’d like). I didn
by bertil 9y ago
I actually like Christmas party (it helps I was working for great companies and with colleagues I actually like and I don’t go out as much as I’d like).
I didn’t stay very long this year because I had other things to do, but one thing that surprised me was to hear one of my male colleague objectifying his direct reports (female and married).
I have had until then the odd chance of only noticing offensive comments from female colleagues (rarely and I’ll admit, not the most representative). After the month we’ve had dropping our heroes, that felt… uniquely heedless? and just plain wrong.
Anyway: this is an advertorial but it felt timely.
- Sholmesy 9y agoDid you call him up on it? You don't have to be aggressive/self-righteous about it to let someone know what they are saying is not ok.
- jnbiche 9y agoHe/she mentioned offensive behavior from both male and female colleagues. Why not call out both?
- Sholmesy 9y agoYou're right I should have. The reason I mentioned the Male one, was the recency in the story, and probably a little bias on the topic. My bad :(.
- bertil 9y agoI didn’t because the party was loud, ambiguity wasn’t on my side and internal politics are still really hard for me to navigate. The company has bigger issues. I did call it when more inappropriate things from happening but that was 15 years ago. Not super keen on how things unfolded but I did get bad people fired more than once.