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Yep and I'd have it no other way. Before kids, I used to be like that. If I "ambitiously worked on side projects", I'd at best miss times I'll never get back a
by jwdunne 9y ago
Yep and I'd have it no other way. Before kids, I used to be like that.
If I "ambitiously worked on side projects", I'd at best miss times I'll never get back and at worse be downright neglectful.
That's a "trade off" I haven't thought twice about making. There is no mistake. As I said, my kids are number one.
In fact, I'd argue it isn't much of a trade off at all. Time with my kids is infinitely more valuable than time spent on my career.
Someday :)
- mcny 9y agoI wish it was more socially acceptable to not have children. In many parts of the world, there is still so much stigma if you marry and don't have a child within a couple of years. I am hopeful things will change and we can swing down the total fertility rate to below one.
- ido 9y agoI'm 34 and living in Berlin - I know a low of people within ±10 years of my age here and MANY have no kids and aren't planning on having any. The norms are changing in a lot of major urban areas.
- jwdunne 9y agoI certainly felt no pressure to have children. In fact, up until the moment I decided to have children, I always said I didn't want them. What changed was my partner's boy, and now my boy for all intents and purposes. It made me rethink my stance and I decided to expand my family.