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The way in which the issue was handled seems important to me. He didn't make a scene in front of the whole team, which could have been humiliating to the person

The way in which the issue was handled seems important to me. He didn't make a scene in front of the whole team, which could have been humiliating to the person who reported the intimidation. He dealt with it privately, and then returned later to notify the reporter that it had been done and what the outcome was. Thus preserving dignity for all involved while hopefully making a meaningful impact on the culture/behavior. As a man witnessing harassment I have felt paralysed by not knowing whether calling the behaviour out in the moment would make things worse. Whether my intervention would be appreciated or looked on by the woman as bullshit white-knighting. I think this anecdote lays out a more useful path that can be emulated.

RangerScience 9y ago
> not knowing whether calling the behaviour out in the moment would make things worse I too feel this. I currently try to find alternative solutions, although only one example is coming to mind: I saw a woman being very probably crowded by a guy on a dance floor, and it looked unwanted. I offered a hula hoop for her to play with: instant personal space bubble. (She took it, guy backed off and later left). I figure the goal is to disrupt the current poor behavior, rather than try to correct / call it out, given my skill levels. Legit / mutual behavior will resume, unwanted behavior (generally?) won't.