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Ah I see, from this angle I can understand - the unnaturalness of new conscious behavioural changes. But overall, that is just discomfort. If you have internali
by charlesbai 9y ago
Ah I see, from this angle I can understand - the unnaturalness of new conscious behavioural changes. But overall, that is just discomfort. If you have internalized the values and your actions align with those values, I still do not view it as "faking" it per say.
When learning how to swim for the first time, it may feel unnatural. But you are not faking it. You are trying something new, and you have the chance of failure (the source of the discomfort, possibly?) - but you are being true to the task at hand
- khedoros1 9y agoSwimming is something you do. "A swimmer" is someone you are. A swimmer swims. If you can't already swim, you learn how to. But when you can swim, you aren't necessarily a swimmer yet. I don't think it's about some particular skill, but more about an identity. Taking on a new identity might involve learning some new skills, but those are just the prerequisites to even successfully "faking it". Put another way, it's more about establishing patterns of behavior. You start off making decisions consciously, and maybe even with difficulty, like "I'm going to get up at 6am, warm up, and swim 10 laps". And "I'm switching my diet to complement my new exercise routine". They'll start out feeling novel, like they're someone else's actions. Then eventually, they'll be your norm. They'll still take effort, but of course you'll make the effort, because "this is just what I do".
- icebraining 9y agoSometimes it feels like faking it, though. Especially during the preparatory rituals; I've felt a bit like Ron Obvious running around on the beach: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ra5h17EbC8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ra5h17EbC8
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