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You know to be honest, even in your second scenario, I've found more success approaching others with the stance that you are a young, energetic, and driven stud
by charlesbai 9y ago
You know to be honest, even in your second scenario, I've found more success approaching others with the stance that you are a young, energetic, and driven student who has the potential to learn, willing to listen to the advice of the experienced, and an admittance to your own lack of concrete knowledge.
For some particular case examples, "Faking it Till You Make It" may work better, but overall, the work relationships that are generated from being authentic tend to be more genuine and overall the other person seems more invested in your general learning and growth.
- nostrademons 9y agoI dunno. I've encountered a few students who approach it like you say - they are young, energetic, driven, polite, humble, and don't exaggerate their qualifications. They are delightful to talk to, and I've really pulled for the few I've met, to the point of writing a job referral to Google (I worked there at the time) for one young woman who cold-emailed me over the alumni network. When I look them up on LinkedIn, though, the actual positions they end up in never seem to be as impressive or lucrative as the folks who say "You're looking for a CTO? Sure, I'm 24 and I got a couple years of experience in React and microservices, I'll totally do the job for you." Some of this may be information bias, i.e. the people who are willing to exaggerate their qualifications to get a job are far more likely to keep exaggerating their qualifications on LinkedIn. But I'd also be wary of the opposite cognitive bias, the just-world fallacy, where we'd like to believe that nice & honest people get ahead and so discount examples of blatant bad behavior getting ahead with a confident "They'll get their come-uppance later."