While I wholeheartedly agree to your points, and I feel it really is bad to focus on someone's disability when there's so much more there to inquiry about (a wh

While I wholeheartedly agree to your points, and I feel it really is bad to focus on someone's disability when there's so much more there to inquiry about (a whole human with skills, stories, wisdom, successes, failures, interesting and differing points of view), I must offer a counterpoint: In most humans, the different is intriguing, and while a disabled person has all of the same (and good and interesting) attributes I've listed above as all other people, they also have this extra bit of experience which is their disability and which most people don't have. I am with you that you should be genuinely bummed at watered down compliments and empty shit like 'warrior', 'brave' and all that awkward stuff that just makes you the center of attention for no reason. In essence, We are ALL warriors and each day we win at making money, getting fed, and breathing is a victory and a blessing (another chance to do it again tomorrow, possibly better!). But, please notice that some people are just specifically curious about how do you go about your day, how different it is to tackle the same challenges they have but with your perspective (people normally like to compare, so it's not gonna be different with you and it shouldn't if you wanna be level). So if you recognize an honest and genuinely curious person among those other in the crowd that are just bringing up your stuff because they have ran out of subjects to talk, well, telling them those tiny details of your life is a sure fire way to get past that awkwardness and condescending membrane and will bring you together in a deeper way than most watercooler conversations you've been caught up. Have a good one, man!